A school resource officer once told me, “my job isn’t to get kids in trouble, it’s to keep them out of trouble.” Indeed, teenagers make a lot of decisions that can easily land them in trouble and sometimes those decisions can have lasting effects. Every college application I have ever see asks a question along the lines of, “have you ever been subject to any disciplinary action?” This is where those long-lasting effects from some poor decisions can come into play and it can be a tricky question to answer.
Maybe the trickiest part of the question though is deciding if you should even answer it truthfully in the first place. You might say, “Who would ever find out and if I answer in the negative here, I’m definitely not getting into this school.” Those both might be valid points, but it doesn’t matter. The answer to the question is, yes, you should respond truthfully. If some information got back to the college that you worked to deceive them--maybe through a transcript, a rec letter, a future incident--repercussions could be far worse.
However, the question itself can often be worded awkwardly. Sometimes, the question specifically asks about infractions at school, sometimes it doesn’t. This can be complicated when something a student did cross the boundary between what happens at school and at home. Also, I think colleges are looking for serious stuff here. I don’t think they are too concerned about the one time in the 10th grade that a student pulled out his phone to check the time and fell victim to his high school’s draconian cell phone policy. But, I think a college would be very interested to know that a student broke into the concession stand at the baseball field one night and stole all the candy.
There are a lot of things that could happen in terms of severity between those two examples and those gray areas are where this question can be especially hard to answer. From the school perspective, a single detention here or there is usually meant to serve as a reminder, “Hey, don’t do that. You know better.” A multi-day detention, or a suspension of some sort, or even an arrest are intended to make the lesson much more palatable and let a student know that what they did is far from acceptable (and often illegal). Those are the types of things I think colleges do want to know about and you should be honest about them on applications.
Reporting these lapses in judgment doesn’t mean your ship is sunk. We all make mistakes in life, but hopefully we learn from them. If a student does have some dark marks in their past, they would be well served to address how they have grown and learned from their missteps. This can be done through an essay, a separate letter included with the application, or maybe even asking for a recommendation written by someone who was familiar with the situation and asking them to specifically address it. I think you’ll find that colleges understand they are dealing with very young adults and they can be forgiving of past indiscretions if you’re honest about them.
